Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

书名：Adult Children of Emotionally Immature ParentsHowtoHealfromDistant,Rejecting
作者：LindsayC.Gibson
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ISBN：9781626251700
出版社：NewHarbinger
出版时间：2015-6-25
格式：epub/mobi/azw3/pdf
页数：224
豆瓣评分： 8.6

书籍简介：

If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life. In this breakthrough book, clinical psychologist Lindsay Gibson exposes the destructive nature of parents who are emotionally immature or unavailable. You will see how these parents create a sense of neglect, and discover ways to heal from the pain and confusion caused by your childhood. By freeing yourself from your parents’ emotional immaturity, you can recover your true nature, control how you react to them, and avoid disappointment. Finally, you’ll learn how to create positive, new relationships so you can build a better life. Discover the four types of difficult parents: The emotional parent instills feelings of instability and anxiety The driven parent stays busy trying to perfect everything and everyone The passive parent avoids dealing with anything upsetting The rejecting parent is withdrawn, dismissive, and derogatory

作者简介：

Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is author of Who You Were Meant to Be and writes a monthly…

书友短评：

@ kenvi 放下治愈型幻想，多关心自己。寻求真诚清晰表达自己，而非改变他人。关键相处步骤：独立观察(评估对方成熟度；客观观察互动；思考而非情绪化)、成熟的意识(表达后就放下；专注结果而非关系；控制不与之建立密切关系)、摆脱角色型自我(保持独立的成年人身份)。情感成熟：立足现实很可靠(不抱怨，懂得面对现实；感知并思考；表里一致；不一人独扛)。尊重他人懂得互惠(尊重你的底线；懂得回报；灵活懂得妥协；总是心平气和；愿意被影响；诚实；愿意道歉并弥补过失)。懂得回应(有同理心，安全感；感觉被关注被理解；会安慰他人也被人安慰；会反思自己并改变；幽默风趣；在一起愉快)。成熟沟通方式：愿意求助。做自己，无论别人是否接受。努力维持并珍惜与人的情感联系。对自己有合理的期望。与人交流尽可能表达清晰，努力追求想要的结果。 @ Lucia 超！喜欢！as an extreme internaliser, can relate on almost every point. To carry the world on my shoulders, to seek only deep connections.. but my feelings are real too. Each and every one of them. @ Teak 非常值得一读的一本书。比起narcissistic，emotionally immature是更温和的形容词，也是更普遍的现象——我们这代人的父母，四舍五入下大概人均emotionally immature。作者的重点放在作为子女如何理解童年的创伤、解决当下的问题、以及努力让自己成长一个情绪成熟的人，但我觉得，反过来，对于不要让自己变成这样的父母也有帮助。 @ taxi & donut 读一会儿得停下来缓一会儿…Summary稍后写。应该列为儿童成长必读系列之一。

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