What Happened to You?

书名:What Happened to You?ConversationsonTrauma,Resilience,andHealing
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Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand. “Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”―Oprah Winfrey This book is going to change the way you see your life. Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question. Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future―opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.


Through the power of media, Oprah Winfrey has created an unparalleled connection with people around the world. As host and supervising producer of the top-rated, award-winning The Oprah Winfrey Show, she entertained, enlightened, and uplifted millions of viewers for twenty-five years. Her accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of the most respected and admired public figures today.

Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D., a child psychiatrist and neuroscientist, is the principal of the Neurosequential Network, senior fellow of the ChildTrauma Academy and an adjunct professor of psychiatry at the Northwestern University School of Medicine in Chicago. He is the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, a bestselling book based on his work with maltreated children, and Born for Love, about the essential nature of empathy.


@ Jus I believe so strongly in the “What happened to you” approach; it avoids the judgment of “What’s wrong with you?” @ 小琦猫 创伤或者糟糕的成长环境会在生理和心理上对一个人产生影响,改变我们的压力反应机制。许多在成年后出现的问题,源头在于早前发生过什么。而治愈创伤的首要,是了解过去。 @ 喵如登 看完了第一章,感觉跟 the body keeps the score 的主旨太像了,大概是 the body keeps the score + maybe you should talk to someone 的集合吧。大段大段的斜体让读书体验不是很友好。 @ 叮叮和柠檬 一个个心碎的故事,早期创伤分析. @ Cher3 有很多例子去解释大脑的神经原如何因为我们的经历不同而变化,好消息是那些应激反应,焦虑,PTSD都可以被改善疗愈。现代人心理咨询的重要性啊! @ Steven 后半本不是很喜欢 @ 快乐的小火龙 很有意思的一本书 at least we should all learn to ask what happened to you rather than what’s the matter with ya wor @ 海绵怪 在spotify上听完了 两个人的声音都好疗愈 @ freesia Healing is to forgive @ 三毛 虽然心理学书讲的都是差不多的内容—the connection between u and ur body, but still good to know


  • 屏幕时间(screen time)对我们也有很大的影响。在家里,在工作中,在学校,我们每天花费在屏幕前的时间超过十一个小时。我们的家庭聚餐次数大大减少了。我们的对话技能正在衰退,讲故事的技艺和倾听的能力都在减弱。其结果就是总体性地只关注自我,更加焦虑,更加压抑,遭遇创伤后的复原能力也更差。
    —— 引自章节:第九章 当代世界的关系贫困
  • 一个人无法给予自己没有得到的东西。如果没有人跟你说话,你就不会说话;如果你从未被爱过,你就无法爱别人。
    —— 引自章节:第九章 当代世界的关系贫困
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